Please use the comments to make your own contributions. And chocolate. It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. It was a one day break from the 40 day Lent cycle to give a feast in honor of Mom with cakes and flowers and her grown children visiting from afar. Watching the Primary children singing to their mothers in Sacrament meeting was the hardest. Let us also posit that, even if the average woman is more nurturing or righteous than the . His topic? Your comment was excellent, especially this part: Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. Classic! Being there with my son was very nice. Finally, Elder Holland offers his thanks to mothers around the world. Your arrangement sounds really cool. Very useful counsel, Mark. Actually now that I do have children, the primary song Im so glad when Daddy comes home has taken on a new meaning for me. Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! Even now, 4 years after her passing, I miss her. Those were the kinds of talks I gave, and thats what I would rather listen to. For example, look at how Mothers Day and Mothering Day each have a religious as well as a secular component to them, and have even merged: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday. Last year, I gave this talk. The other auxiliaries are free to do something, its just the bishopric that doesnt. I only mentioned Mothers Day once, and I said how much my mom hated the hypocrisy of Mothers Day, and that we should treat women right every day of the year, not give platitudes one day of the year. I must let my voice be heard, I know I dont have any say on when the thread closes, but it would be interesting to hear feedback from how each persons respective wards handled MD, and how the people assigned to talk felt their messages were delivered and/or received. And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife. Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. This talk by Elaine S. Dalton helps fathers understand the importance of loving and cherishing the women in their life. The best MD talk was from a woman who gave a list of all the things she wished she had known when she was 18. We can all sound harsh at times, but this seems to be a community of sorts and following through on the different dicussions helps put context to opinions expressed. Members have now learned to accept it. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. I am aware of a seminary/institute teacher who is apparently of the firm and unshakeable belief that a pile of pizza must be provided each week without fail. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? I am on the Speakers Bureau for the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) and we would welcome the donations too. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? I didnt realize Mothers Day was so close. For years the tradition in my ward was a simple gift for all sisters 18 and older. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. . Ann (#76), Im sorry to hear about your mothers passing. But since we have instituted Mothers Day as the day my family ditches church and meets my parents at Shoshone Falls for a picnic, I look forward to it every year. I think its the best way to go. Why does the church HAVE to be a part of it? Ere the sun goes down: Im sorry too for the harshness In my expression in a previous thread regarding your views of sacrament meeting. We need ideals especially ones who arent ideal, so we can redefine ideal. Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Church Newsroom November 10, 2022 Church The First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has. But these are good points. http://mormonartist.net/2012/02/day-three-jeanna-stay/. first adult speaker: Motherhood is like a roller coaster: there are lots of ups and downs, and sometimes you just have to close your eyes and scream., second adult speaker, quoting a Native American proverb: The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears., benediction, by a former Bishop: Heavenly Father, we speak with thee every day, and we look forward to the day when we can renew our relationship with Heavenly Mother.. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies. On this site you will find a variety of arrangements for ward choirs, solo piano, vocal duets and more. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. They cannot eat it, and in fact just having the stuff around is a serious temptation to do so. I mean big ol gnarly wretch. Some women think that you dont talk enough about mothers while other people think you talk too much about them. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. Sacrament meeting is a time for us to renew our covenants, it is a sacred ordinance. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. Index to the Triple Combination, Sacrament, Jesus Christ Teaches about the Sacrament and Prayer, AaronL. West, Little Children and the Sacrament, Ensign, October 2016, Line upon Line: Matthew 26:2628, New Era, October 2016, Questions & Answers: What am I supposed to think about during the sacrament? 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In partaking of the sacrament and making these commitments, Church members renew the covenant they made at baptism (see Mosiah 18:810; Doctrine and Covenants 20:37). Fun Photos of Latter-day Saint Leaders in the Snow! We should not celebrate anything unless it is universally acknowledged around the world. For the injured interceding, Now, I detest it. She talked about how when she was single she was very shallow, only cared about clothes and makeup and boys, didnt prepare herself spiritually, didnt have much of a testimony, and then upon marrying found herself extremely immature and woefully unprepared to be a spiritual leader in her home. My kids are way too distracting. Ive never objected to any Mothers Day program, and in my ward, all women get a gift, married, single, divorced, widowed, with or without children. The good news is, most sisters want chocolate from their ward family and most sisters usually get chocolate. Talking to other grownups while nice doesnt belong in 3rd hour. The bad ones tend to deal withthe big generalities, praisingmotherhood without even pausing to define whether we are speaking of women who have given birth, or womanhood in general. And that concludes the story of how NewlyHousewife learned not to attend church on Mothers Day. Give the gift of time. I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. I remember long ago a young woman spoke on Mother's Day and described her mother as "the mean mother". She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. I get really tired of hearing the stripling warrior passages on Mother's Day. Thank you for writing this blog post. I have been avoiding the mother's day sacrament meeting for the last couple of years. My bishop knows where its at, and we always get Dove bars, Milk for those of unrefined taste and Dark for the rest of us. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. Ive decided to speak on how motherhood allows me to develop Christlike attributes (knowledge, patience, temperance, etcref 1 Peter 1:4-8) through daily struggles and reliance on the atonement and then finish with how wonderful it is that mother is only one of the facets of who we are as we strive to become strong women of God. Mark, very good advice IMO. Feelings of guilt, shame, loneliness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and not measuring up to impossible expectations are prevalent. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! For those in Europe, is Mothers Day celebrated to the same awful-gut-wrenching extent? Intent matters, and I dont believe the idealism we are fed is meant to hurt, but rather to uplift. And home teachers were not comfortable giving flowers or candy to a single sister. I always had this huge chip on my shoulder about refusing the flowers because I wasnt a mom (I had kids later in life), but my own mother would force me to take it because it was a free flower. THE major Mothers Day talk in Sacrament Meeting in our ward this week, I have forwarded all of this discussion on to him! I recommend it highly: This! (http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/). So I will be going to church on Sunday, even though I never go to church, so I can remember my mother, who was never a Mormon. The fathers dont seem to feel as guilty about things as the mothers do,,,. However, the restored gospel is true and is a steady guide for us in nagivating the oftimes foggy seas of life. So be kind to her. But I was not a mother, in spite of my tears and pleadings with the Lord. In the mean time, please, PLEASE, dont go hunting the sisters. I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. I agree! Ere the sun goes down, So far, so good. We know very little about HM and HF really. Also, try to remember that not all the women in the congregation are mothers - which may be because they can't be. My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. When her dad found out that there was a whole lottashakin goin on without him, he summarily divorced his adulterous wife and took the children to live with him. Men tended to speak about angel mothers who bore no resemblance to mine. 3rd hour had all of the PRI & YW leaders including the YW themselves in RS with homemade lemon cakes from the teacher. That in no way shape or form precludes me from looking to Christ/HF/HM for ideals. You can also subscribe without commenting. I wanted to know more, so here are his thoughts. The first one we did was a modified version of "Teacher Do You Love Me". May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. At the end theyll get a rose with some message tied onto the stem with ribbon about how Jesus loves all women. It was my missionary farewell, back when such things were acceptable. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. I wonder if a member of our bishopric reads this blog? Some years it gets a nod, other years the talks are unrelated. Sorry for the sacrilege I think all women want massages but not sure the church is the right place for it. Uchtdorf. Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. Wow! Ill be checking back! Our old ward in NY would take the funds normally used to purchase flowers, chocolate, etc. No one tries to probe for subliminal meaning in the choice of Fat Boys. I think mixing it up, at least every other year, from Mother I Love You, is nice as a mom. Less than nothing because the message of such a gift is that the person is not important. Yes! Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. Families are good about this but public acknowledgement is hard to come by. This has been a great reminder to be sensitive to all in the congregation with the Holy Ghost as a guide. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. I guess plants are pretty and mothers are pretty. We do need to have some kind of an ideal, even if we may not measure up to it occasionally, or even ever! Should we have days for every type of individual? May 6, 2017 I get fed up listening every year to only men saying how wonderful their wives and mothers are. I want to hear about the mother who lost all her children, because she made a lot of mistakes. I remember my dad saying it was one of the most powerful and real talks hed ever heard in a Mormon church meeting. Let us take as self-evident that, in reality, not all women are naturally pure or spiritual. I remember being confused by a few Mothers Day talks growing up. Too much idealism masks reality and can quickly become propaganda and lies. The music . Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. We teach that you are basically good or even great (gods in embryo), that you are responsible for your actions and that you can actually make other people do what is right through prayer and works especially your children, that the sins you accumulate both those of commission and omission are entirely your fault, that Christ is not really in the middle of the picture until you really screw up and commit something unforgiveable like adultery and that you need to try harder to keep every one of those commandments or you are going to lose your reward of having a planet & of having eternal sex , and the celestial DFAC will snatch your children from you and destroy your perfect family sprouting from the buried nuts of polygamy where mother valently hoisted the impossible burdens. I haven't a clue about how to interact at times. Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. Why can't we let women celebrate it how they want at home and focus on Christ at church? This change wasnt well-received as it occurred without any advance notice. I meant an ideal not an idea! Ugh. Replies to my comments She loved us unconditionally heart and soul. And he completely meant it too. The "Sacrament Meeting Program" app provides users a quick, easy way to create their sacrament meeting programs. The good talks that I have heard tend toaddressthe details ofan individual womans life, in all its messiness and particularity. Regular G.A.S. I cant quite get them right and they would certainly be expunged by the moderators anyway. Sorry I missed that. A later version of the holiday occurred in Europe where they would celebrate the Mother Church (the church as the bride of Christ and as the mother of their spiritual rebirth through baptism) and they would decorate the church with flowers and jewels. Something else for me to kill.. This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. He offers advice on how young women can look to faithful mother figures as a pattern to follow. They really did. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. I am understanding your POV. This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. Next, it is always very specific so as to not offend anyone. Someone explain this. Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). April 24, 2016 in General Discussions. Questions & Answers: What am I supposed to think about during the sacrament? The division of labor between the holidays helped to alleviate some of the awkwardness of the women = mothers mindset that we face in the US. No love in mortality comes closer to approximating the pure love of Jesus Christ than the selfless love a devoted mother has for her child.. Thanks for the reminder. Ere the sun goes down. Kristine, thank you again. 1 Dead, 1 Injured in Shooting During LDS Sacrament Meeting in Nevada. So how does tax exemption relate to churches, and especially churches that [], You are so much more than the worst thing youve everdone., http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng, http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/, Inside the UK's Mormon missionary bootcamp - BBC, Former mayor, LDS bishop gets prison for child sex abuse - Salt Lake Tribune, The anti-racist Mormon trying to teach his fellow LDS church members - NPR, Mormon Church fined over claim it hid $32bn of investments - BBC, Linda King Newell, Feminist Scholar of Mormon History, Dies at 82 - The New York Times. Im thankful for ideals even when I dont measure up not even often let alone all the time. We go to church to grow closer to the Savior, not to get treats or recognition. Really? A cookie in a baggie? It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. One year they handed out Sheri Dews talk Are We Not All Mothers? and I thought that was cool. Inevitably they would be instructed that the gifts were for all women, so theyd try hard to give me one. It was so honest and hopeful all at once. I wish you were speaking in my ward! Love for mothers is good, but sometimes there is a fine, fine line between love and dysfunction. I am a single (divorced) old man with no children. So no one is left out. My wife and I were not in his ward to hear the talk, but he told us about it later. My mother died just a little less than a year ago, and I find that I never appreciated Mothers Day at all until now that my mother is gone. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. She was not worthy of any review from me. This talk teaches us how rearing up children in righteousness can help keep them safe in an increasingly wicked world and how what happens in the home can benefit communities and nations. This is a tradition of man, and sometimes it is just a bad idea. MD really is a no-win. The first speaker was my favorite. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests. I personally am skeptical of ever looking to people for ideals. There there is the secular appeal - it causes a pain to those who are not mothers. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. to hear my little kids sing and for my older kids to pass out a flower. #16 They asked him to speak again?! Any suggestions as to what you would truly and realistically appreciate being presented? Theres got to be a way to show a little appreciation and recognize their importance and significance without it being guilt-inducing. May your prayers be answered and your hopes and dreams become realities.. . Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. It hits pretty close because Im one of those lucky people who get to speak on Mothers Day this year. Why? Based on the comments it seems to be prevalent everywhere in the US church. I wonder if this phenomenon is uniquely Mormon. I pray the Spirit will be with me today as I give this talk. I thought my husband (Sonny) had already posted this, but maybe not, or Im just blinder than usual. . 2. I agree Ray. There are sins that need confessing; Since my mom has unacknowledged mental health issues, this is my oldest sister and a lady in L.A. who I still keep in contact with. When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. After observing and empathizing with three generations of mothers and thinking of my own dear mother, I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.. EOR, I would venture to say, even with being fairly new to BCC that few here mean to give offense. Serious question for everyone, just out of true curiosity: How many of these horror stories happened in the last five years? Alece, However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? Id really love to see the fathers acknowledged on Fathers Day. It falls short when it is not delivered with love, patience, acceptance, humility, an understanding of the limitations of REALITY, and the the Gift of the Holy Ghost. It would be much easier for me to hear mothers day talks if they were real instead of ideal, though Id prefer a good sermon on Christ, instead. Even though Mothers Day is now a reasonably happy day for me personally, I still find that my mind is focused on how other women in my ward might be experiencing it. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. Well we could have it like the Sacrament Meetings for Father's Day and have it be your usual every Sunday meeting and not even talk about women or mothers. Book of Mormon Scriptures on Mothers.
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